Thank you NotMarcJackson.
Valencian, you write as though you have never been a high performance match official. The countless hours dedicated to becoming physically capable of running and turning with very skilled athletes, then becoming match fit and having to retain that level week after week in all weathers.
Fitness tests, examinations on Laws of the Game which change annually, starting at grassroots games and competing for eventual promotion to senior competitive games. Realising that there are age limits to promotion and sacrificing time with a spouse and your children. Forgoing holidays because you are required to officiate at a tournament somewhere.
All this on top of holding a regular job to pay the bills (professional referees aside of course).
Speak to me again about "weak referees" when you've worn the shoes and walked the journey. Until then don't insult the people like me who make the sacrifice so that you and your mates can enjoy a football match and then slag me off.
Having played and umpired fast-pitch softball at a fairly high provincial level, I can say that the biggest thing that an official has going for him is his reputation. If you are a good umpire, and are known as such, you get some slack from most players when you do make a bad call (and you do know it immediately when you make a bad call, and if it alters the outcome of the game, it keeps you awake that night going over it in your head).
The second thing is having a decent sense of humour and not being a hothead. Again, having played, I know that you react in ways that you immediately regret .... you know damn well he made the right call, but your disappointment that it went against your team generates a bad reaction. So a good umpire lets it slide .... no need to be a tinpot demagogue out there.
Finally, the player's reputation also has a lot to do with it. We've all played with guys who wouldn't say **************** if they had a mouthful of it, so if that player reacts to a call, most umpires will let it go, and probably will ask themselves if they may not have got it wrong.
Players reacting to every call, wagging fingers, waving their arms about .... especially when they know full well that the call was right .... create problems for themselves.
I remember once criticizing an umpire to one of his fellow umpires after a game. The umpire with whom I was speaking said "maybe he's just not very good at this". Truer words, etc.....